Never, in the history of ever, has telling someone to calm down actually helped them to calm down.
As I started writing this my auto-rotating background was a lioness staring the camera down with her intense yellow eyes. I decided to name her Augusta. How fitting a photo to pop up for an article about dealing with overwhelm.
Can you imagine being the photographer? Starring through your hopefully long magnifying camera lens and knowing if Augusta decided to charge you nothing under the sun would save your life. At the same time you’re having a precious, once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to capture this image and to be in the presence of a truly amazing creature.
All of that in and of itself creates a balance of tension. There is a definitive con, being mauled to death by a lioness, and definite pro, an amazing experience. But what happens when the scales are out of balance?
Valentine’s Day has come and gone and you’re still not in the mood. It’s easy not to feel frisky on Valentine’s Day when there seems to be a ton of pressure to be super sexy and have an expensive, passion filled night. The truth is no one feels sexy on cue, let alone when trying to make an intimate experience that matches up to society’s standards. It’s not only massively defeating, it’s bizarre, and yet we subject ourselves to that on some level.
Sex starts in your head. Stress, depression, anxiety and even a lousy day can kill the mood. If you’re not feeling sexy in your mind, you’re not going to get sexy vibes in your loins. It’s as simple as that. If you’re consumed with worry about the price of the lingerie - which makes you feel self-conscious anyway, not to mention is physically uncomfortable to wear - you’re not going to genuinely enjoy sex. If you can, set aside the things in your world that are stressing you out. That will do more to get you into "the mood" than any piece of lingerie.
12/28/2016 0 Comments
Guest Blog by Jennifer Scott
Guest Mental Health and Wellness Blogger Jennifer Scott joins us this week to share valuable information on coping with stress, anxiety and depression during the holiday season. Jennifer Scott has experienced anxiety and depression since she was a teenager and ever since she has overcome it, she has been an advocate for opening up about mental health.
For more information on mental health by Jennifer head to her website SpiritFinder.org.
The holidays are a difficult time of the year for many people. People who suffer from clinical depression and anxiety may experience an increase in symptoms during the busy holiday season, but even those who don’t have a formal diagnosis may experience feelings of depression and anxiety during the holiday season for a myriad of reasons.
The holiday season tends to make us think about traditions and time spent in the past with friends and loved ones near and far, and often depression is triggered around this time of year as people grow melancholy thinking about days gone by. If you’re struggling with feelings of sadness or stress around the holidays, there are a few ways to combat your symptoms.
There is something about a family meal that can straight up suck any feelings of success and gratitude right out of you. Your start up’s progress becomes “cute” and a short interruption to the details of when you’re getting a real job. Your daily yoga practice reduced to hippy nonsense. Any hope of sharing your new venture our travels get eschewed for the topic of babies, investment properties and corporate promotions. Why on earth did you ever leave the kids table?
You’re trying to maintain your positive psychology learnings in the forefront of your mind, but it seems more like a competition for one-uppings and backhanded compliments. Pairing all that with the scary and polarizing, current world news and there’s a good chance holiday gatherings could take a toll on you. It’s no wonder the jokes and statistics abounding about holiday family feuds, depression, anxiety and increased alcohol consumption and hospitalizations.
When it seems that the world has gone mad and tragedies have given our lives a somber tone, there is still, and always will be, a bright beacon of hope. Hope for you, your family and humanity at large. That beacon is gratitude and it lights the way to better and brighter days for anyone who chooses to practice it.
There is always something to be grateful for and that, in and of itself, is an incredible thing. If you’re reading this give thanks for the incredible gifts of literacy, electricity, internet and time.
10/13/2016 2 Comments
Recently life threw me a curve ball. I’ve been working hard and diligently building momentum towards not one, but ALL of my personal and professional goals in life. I live in a city that truly feels like home, making financial progress and even gains, growing a loyal following for NutritionSheila.com (as well as all things social media related: Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest and Twitter), developing true-meaningful friendships and connections, and even my downward dog was finally on point after nearly 18 years of (inconsistently) practicing yoga. Hell, I’ve even written a complete book by accident and have begun the process of preparing it for submission for publication.
And then… WaPam! Out of nowhere I was dealt a low-blow and what made it sting was that it came from a person I truly valued and looked up to.
But here’s the thing… I know, I know. Good things almost never follow “but here’s the thing.” Also I recognize that I’m hitting the ellipses pretty hard up in here. Check your judgement at the door until you’ve made it through this article. At which point you can choose whether or not you pick them back up. I suggest not picking them back up, but you do you. You’ve got options – happiness is one of them.
I digress. Here’s the thing. The very moment I got hit with this lousy news, news that anyone would be justified to get upset by, my first, honest, instant reaction was gratitude, followed by massive relief.